If you are a parent you already know how difficult it is. You can put so much pressure on yourself to be a "Perfect Parent". However, this is an impossible expectation so let's trash that concept right now and introduce a new one...
Being a Progressive Parent. This means learning from your mistakes, being kind to yourself and understanding that even with the best intentions things can still go really pear shaped.
Here are a few thoughts to help you become the best parent you can be;
- Knowing your intention before you communicate
Intention means purpose, know what you want before you open your mouth. Is it to encourage? To apologise? To clarify? What is your intention? If you don't know how on earth will your child?
- Give the benefit of the doubt
Kindness is necessary, after all we are all Human, we make mistakes. Give your child the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they didn't do their homework or have been caught in a lie. It doesn't mean they are a bad person or that they don't love you. Perhaps they have a lot on their plate at the moment; maybe they are struggling with something. They need understanding not a lecture.
- Stop misinterpretation in its tracks
Creating a safe place to be yourself is necessary in your relationships with your kids. You’re a living breathing example to your kids. So teach them how to clarify communication. Check in regularly with them. If you are confused by your child’s behavior ask questions, clarify, please do not assume!
- Understand your Communication DNA
Each of us has different styles of communication, this is what I call your Communication DNA. Learn more about this
If you are a keen bean you can take our online Communication DNA course right now.
In order understand others you must first understand yourself, what makes you tick, why you do what you do. Then the next step is to understand your child as a Communicator too. Your children are their own people so they may be very different to you. One of the most powerful gifts we can give our child is complete acceptance of who they are and what makes them unique. The online Communication DNA course will allow you to begin to understand your child also. For a deeper understanding you can check out our next level course to better understand others "Becoming an Enlightened Communicator"
- Not knowing your own communication style and strength
Each of us has our own unique style and strength as a Communicator. You may be direct, a natural decision maker, or perhaps you are charming and influencing, perhaps you are a natural listener or maybe you love details and understanding why?
Understanding yourself means you will be really clear on what makes you tick, then you are able to understand what makes other tick.
From here it is possible to create a communication centered home and family that will flourish. If you would like to know how to create this type of culture in your home then get in touch. Don’t put it off, you deserve to experience better communication with your children.
We have an online Communication coaching course that will help you to understand and Harness your strengths as a Communicator. This course will help you to understand your strengths, your needs, your challenges, your stress response, and what to do about it to improve your communication.
Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courgaeous Communicator.
Let’s change the world we live in one conversation at a time.