Kylie Warry

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Living with a procrastinator?

The Patient, steady gentle style is one that is warm, welcoming, all about relationship and somewhat more reserved than the inspiring or dominant styles.  These guys are all about consistency, predictability and people.  There is no doubt you would have someone with this style in your life, as this is the most common communication style.  

This style is often described as the glue that holds us all together. They are steady consistent, caring and loyal.

This style craves predictability, they love processes if someone else sets them up, they will follow the right leader to the very end, and they are committed to their cause.  They will work quietly without the bells and whistles to get the job done.  

One of the largest problems people have with the Patient Communicator is their ability to procrastinate.  They can make it an art form. 

They avoid problems and tension through procrastination, in fact it can be a control tactic.  They will not cause and uproar and are not likely to speak out against things.  These guys will avoid conflict like the plague, are slower to speak up and want everyone to get along.

To get the most out of a procrastinator you need to understand them.  You can learn more here.  The harder you push them into action, the more they will ignore you.  They have a backbone of steel!  How do I know this?  I am surrounded by this wonderful communication style.

When this style is understood they are loyal; they promote calm and stability and will work tirelessly for a cause.  When misunderstood they can seem quiet, uninvolved, avoidant and passive aggressive.  

Change is a really big issue for these guys, they crave consistency even if it is destructive.  They are quite like the ostrich putting their head in the sand thinking the issue will just go away.  As you may imagine if you are facing an issue and trying to work through with this style, it can be extremely difficult.  The harder you push the more they shut down too. 

However, as it is with all of the styles each of us brings our own unique strengths to the table.  The steady and gentle style brings about much needed calm and consistency, without them it would feel like utter madness.

If you are living with a Patient communicator and are struggling, checkout our resources page or contact us with your specific questions.  For support to learn more about your style and how to get the most out of your relationships.  

If you would like to know what your Communication DNA is then you can by completing our short online course.  

If you are struggling or have questions please get in touch.  If you would like to understand the other Communication styles in more detail you can take our online course "Becoming an Enlightened Communicator".  Here you will learn more about yourself and the other DNA styles, this will improve communication and connection by building on your understanding of yourself and others.  

Until next time, Care, Connect and be a Courageous Communicator

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